Gimmie Some Help Here...

[Gravity]

Ok two problems here guys, one's just kinda here and the other one is the one that's really buggin me. Here me go.

1. Minor problem, just took my permit test and failed. Any suggestions?

2.Bigger problem and girl problem. If ya don't wanna get involved stop reading. My girlfriend and I have been going out for close to two months and we both really like each other but we haven't kissed. Here's why. Basically in her last relationship, the guy she went out with just kinda forced her into a kiss. Obviously she didn't like it and the guy was promptly dumped like the steaming dung pile he is. Problem is, that was her first kiss and now she doesn't want to repeat the experience. How do I get a kiss from her?

Help is always appreciated guys.

[Wij]

1. Well... Take a driving lesson right before you have your exam. It helped ****loads for me. But if you drive like dogpoe, take a few more lessons.

edit: Ill give two a shot. but don't expect nuthin..


2. Take her to some ditch party. Or use the romantic method, and wait for her to be "ok with it." But that may turn out to be never. Tbfh I've never been in that situation. So I don't really know...

[AvaBundy]

Ok two problems here guys, one's just kinda here and the other one is the one that's really buggin me. Here me go.

1. Minor problem, just took my permit test and failed. Any suggestions?

2.Bigger problem and girl problem. If ya don't wanna get involved stop reading. My girlfriend and I have been going out for close to two months and we both really like each other but we haven't kissed. Here's why. Basically in her last relationship, the guy she went out with just kinda forced her into a kiss. Obviously she didn't like it and the guy was promptly dumped like the steaming dung pile he is. Problem is, that was her first kiss and now she doesn't want to repeat the experience. How do I get a kiss from her?

Help is always appreciated guys.

With 1...I dunno...re-test...I passed....sorry..

two is my experise....not forcing girls to do things, but being with a girl, taking it slow just to make her comfortable.

My suggestion.

You could take her to a movie, or a place in your area you know about, that is a specail place to you, quiet, and a place you know she would apprciate, and go for a kiss there. If you go with the moive, you should wait until you get back home, but make sure you make her feel comfortable the whole time, compliments work well to, don't over flow her with them, but make sure you do it more then once.....need more?

[Peoples King]

1: Retake the test and study for it for God sakes. That isnt too hard to get around.

2: Jesus, you people date without intimacey? Okay there is no point in you forcing the poor girl into a kiss by mauling the face off her. All you can do is just woo the **** out of her, give her time to come round. Suggest it to her in a subtle way and reassure her that you wont eat the face off her. I cant say I have ever had trouble extracting a kiss from a female, just give her time I guess.

[Se7en]

Heres how i work. Words can do amazing things. Dont act like a sissy, unless thats what she is into, but just really make it known that the night is all about her.

Make her appreciate the fact that you are legit, and kissing her wouldnt be a requirement but something that you'd really cherish. You like her, and kissing her would be like taking a picture. You remember it. If she likes you as much as you like her, eventually she will realize that you are a nice guy who only wants a kiss for purely innocent reasons.

[AvaBundy]

2: Jesus, you people date without intimacey?

No, thats not it, I just can't say it best to other guys....I can do it perfectly to the girl im talkin to

[Se7en]

2: Jesus, you people date without intimacey?

Not all girls are instantly intimate. This girl seems to be a perfect example. She was hurt in the past, and it takes a while to get over something like that. You cant exactly fault anyone for that, aside from the pissflap who caused her to become this way.

[unpossibl1]

She was hurt because her first kiss didn't turn out exactly like she planned? Is she joking? Tell her to toughen up a bit, because that's pretty damn over sensitive. It's not like she got raped or anything....that would be a different story. Girls are looked at funny if they don't kiss on the first date these days, so two months is just absurd.

Ah wait, 15 year old girl....hormones raging, insecurities running rampant, and two balls of fat are forming on her chest....ok, let's try this again.

Ok, sensitive answer: Just give her time, she will come around. She can't be planning on never kissing anyone again, so it should all work out in the end. She probably is just unsure of herself and doesn't want things to get messed up. Feed her a line about how you know that her kissing you will not be a mistake, as there will be actual feelings behind it, and something that expresses those feelings can never be wrong. Seize the moment, tell her you would never do anything to hurt her, etc etc etc, and smooch away.

[The Kid]

Wow, 2 months and no kiss. Wow. Move here.

[Gravity]

You cant exactly fault anyone for that, aside from the pissflap who caused her to become this way.

Really wanna beat the hell out of that pissflap too. Thanks for the help guys, I'm gonna give it a go this weekend and see if I get lucky.

[The Tumbling T]

Well your first ? can't help you out much I just woke up one morning and took the test and passed without studying.

Second ?..... Just make sure she's ready that really the only advise I can give you. So yeah.

[Gravedigger]

when you say you've been going out for two months, do you mean talking, dating, or have been a couple for two months?

You'll know when it's the right time to kiss her and if you think it's the right time and you do it and she backs up or holds her hand out and stops you just apologize or something. Or like one of the guys said on here just straight up ask her if you can do it.

EDIT: I had to come back and say something else. Trevor, you said that girls are looked at funny if not kissed on the first date. I think that's freakin bogus that people think that. Kissing someone isn't like giving them a hug or a handshake or anything. Kissing moves the relationship up real fast.

I'm in the beginning stages of a relationship with that girl in the picture thread. We spend so much time together at the college and on the phone that most of the people that know us consider us in a relationship already. I care for her so deeply and like her a lot. She knows that and she's already told me that she likes me a lot (she told me first and that's a first in a relationship for me for the girl to say she really likes me first. It's usually me saying it first.). I say and do things for her that she thinks are so sweet and all this. We get along really well, have nearly everything in common, etc. etc.

And the thing is we are going out tomorrow to the movies (and since she's had a really rough past few days, I'm getting her half a dozen daisies). Technically this is our second date because I took her out for lunch last week. I know most people don't think lunch would be a date, but it was for us because my nights during the week are filled up because of work and her weekend was filled up.

We've already talked about a relationship and how we feel about them. I told her that when I find someone that I want one with, I'm taking it really slow because of work, school, and the business. Will I kiss her tomorrow? Probably not unless I feel the desire to. I feel that if I do it'll speed things up. I had never heard that girls were looked bad upon like that, but I've talked to a couple of friends about that kind of thing lately and they think it's ridiculous. You should kiss when you're ready, not when you think you should. Not when others think you should.

This girl, I like spending time with her. I just like being with her. I know that and she knows that.

So, Gravity. Are you really ready for a kiss? Or is it because of some kind of pressure from friends of yours? Back in high school, guys always kidded each other if you didn't "get any" on your first date and so is the need for a kiss coming from you? Or from a friend of yours?

[Lover Nuts]

Great, an actual discussion going on in Chit-Chat.

Now I need to know something Gravity, what kind of kiss do you mean? The sort of quick kiss on the cheek, or an actual loving snog? There's a huge difference between the two. Me and my ex didn't snog until like a few weeks later after we were going each other. She wanted to when we were alone and so that we wearn't pressurised by our friends. I just thought 'meh' and got off with her (I'm a fun loving guy ;)). We did give each other small kisses here and there though. We didn't really talk on the first day because it was different that we were going out, but that's what everyone's relationships are like.

I agree with Trev, some girls are way too sensitive. Either that or they're quite desperate for attention.

Anyway Grav, just take her out on a date and take the kiss slow with her. She should be digging it, trust me. Good luck :D.

Thanks, :beer:

[legendaryken]

If she's into you, then get her to go to a party, pay her a lot of attention, ply her with just a little alcohol, wait for the slow records to get put on, hold her tight, look into her eyes.......keep looking.......and she'll make a move. DO NOT thrust your tongue down her throat like you're plunging into the Grand Canyon. Gentle pressure with the lips first, tease with the tip of the tongue, then pull back to see the reaction. Of course, by then, her hand might be half way inside your boxers, in which case, no problem.

[unpossibl1]

EDIT: I had to come back and say something else. Trevor, you said that girls are looked at funny if not kissed on the first date. I think that's freakin bogus that people think that. Kissing someone isn't like giving them a hug or a handshake or anything. Kissing moves the relationship up real fast.



It was a bit of an exageration that I used to make my point that society has relationships moving much quicker these days....just ask TV, it will tell you.

I am not sure why, I just felt like adding in a somewhat sarcastic part of my original post, but then added the sensitive stuff in at the bottom.

[Gravedigger]

It was a bit of an exageration that I used to make my point that society has relationships moving much quicker these days....just ask TV, it will tell you.

I am not sure why, I just felt like adding in a somewhat sarcastic part of my original post, but then added the sensitive stuff in at the bottom.

Oh ok, I thought for a second there that you honestly believed that.

[Peoples King]

If she's into you, then get her to go to a party, pay her a lot of attention, ply her with just a little alcohol, wait for the slow records to get put on, hold her tight, look into her eyes.......keep looking.......and she'll make a move. DO NOT thrust your tongue down her throat like you're plunging into the Grand Canyon. Gentle pressure with the lips first, tease with the tip of the tongue, then pull back to see the reaction. Of course, by then, her hand might be half way inside your boxers, in which case, no problem.

Ben is a smooth mother****er and he just turned me on :ernie: Is it wrong to use Ernie like that?

I have to say that Im going more and more along the lines of Trevs first answer. At 15 this girl, if like most girls, should be into all types of ****. It is strange to see a girl THIS sensitive when talking about todays society. You also have to ask yourself Grav, if she hasnt kissed you in two months does it really qualify as a boyfriend/girlfreind relationship. Seems to be just totally plutonic. All I can really say from here on out is that I am befuddled and confuddled and some other type of fuddled.

[Gravity]

It's not a platonic relationship. One thing might be that we never get any alone time. Her sister or my step-sister are always around bugging us. I'ma gonna try and get her over here to my mom's house where there'll be no one else around. Maybe that'll fix this ****.

[Gravity]

Ok I've confronted her about this since being alone hasn't worked out. She said she has to think on it but we'll talk later. Here's hoping guys...

[Funk]

Gentle pressure with the lips first, tease with the tip of the tongue, then pull back to see the reaction. Of course, by then, her hand might be half way inside your boxers, in which case, no problem.


Imagins Lk in that scene... *barfs*