A dilemna

[Duff]

I'm confused.

Ive just been offered a promotion, but it means moving to England. I think its a good move and is in my best interests, but the only problem is that its a massive step to take and i dont know exactly where the job is.

Basically, i applied for a job in Birkenhead, which is just outside Liverpool. I didnt get that job, but they said they still wanted to offer me a promotion and they would move a few people round to fit me in. They have told me that the job will be in the Liverpool area, but at the moment that's as specific as they can be, as they wont know an exact location for a couple of weeks, yet they want to know my answer by Monday or Tuesday.

I really dont know what to do. On the one hand, i need this promotion to progress to where i want to be and on the other i'll be leaving behind all my family and friends to move to a City i don't know, and i wont know a single person there.

What would you do if you were in that situation?


p.s Despite the promotion, i'll actually be worse off financially as the extra money will be offset against my greatly increased living expenses. Maybe i could persuade my mum and dad to move over there so i can continue scrounging off them

[legendaryken]

Difficult. I'd stick with Ireland on balance. The living expenses will be cheaper, your friends and family will be around you and Ireland is still progressing whereas Liverpool is going backwards and the only culture that I'm aware of still revolves around the Beatles. On the other hand, there's a lot of Irish in the area and there's some nice quieter places to live near Liverpool.

[Peoples King]

I dont know if I can give much advice in this sort of situation. Moving to a strange City where you know absolutely no one is tough. Countless Irish people have had to do this, my uncle included. I think you should get advice off someone living in States or in the UK who moved over there on their own. If you dont know anyone, I could e-mail my uncle and get some words of wisdom from another Cork man. :winkok:

Duff the only thing I can really say is that if this is the promotion you have been looking for and if you feel this in your best interests then you should go ahead and take it. The one thing is that I'll be the one SMod left that lives in Ireland.

[Duff]

Actually Ken, the retail sector in Northern Ireland is far from booming and the specific area i work in (mobile phones) is particularly poor. Liverpool, or England in general, will not only offer me greater chnce of progression, but will also offer me a different experience, and if it doenst work out, i can always come home

[Duff]

Actually after reading that, i wonder whether i'm trying to convince Ken or myself

[legendaryken]

Sorry, I thought you were in the South, but even then, you would hope that the North might get its act together soon. Your decision, of course. If you've got the opportunity to come back to your old job/house if it doesn't work out, then that seems like a good deal.

[Duff]

you would hope that the North might get its act together soon.

yet another example of legendarykens amazing humour

[Kalen™]

You seem like you have already made up your mind.. ;)


Originally posted by Duff - 'Live Event Thread':
I'll be living in England by then, so i might try and get a show in. None close to where i'll be though, so probably have to travel.

[Wij]

Just do it. (best motto ever imo)

If you think it's a step towards where you want to end up in life, take that step. It doesn't mean that you'll leave your family and friends behind forever. That's what holidays are for. As for the money problem... I have no advice... well... drink less, or just leach of your parents a bit more.

[Taz]

Hmm well if its going to get to you were you want to be then i think you should take it, sure it will be hard not been able to see your family but sometimes you have to think of yourself and whats best for you. You'll make new friends there too, just wondering how far away is England from Ireland?

[legendaryken]

just wondering how far away is England from Ireland?
In Australian terms, about as far as a 'roo with his nuts on fire could jump.(45 mins on a plane)

[Taz]

what you talking bout codger

[legendaryken]

I have no idea. Must be time for my medication and afternoon cup of cocoa.

[Duff]

stop spamming my thread you bastards or i'll be forced to close it.

Wait, that wont help me at all.

ok, just stop spamming

wait, now i'm doing it

****

[Chazz]

It's always a tough decision when it comes to a career move, cause you never really know what will happen. Yet, that is the beauty of the risk. If it works out, then you'll look back asking why you even bothered worrying over it. If it doesn't, you go on a killing spree, blaming society for your woes. :laughing: Just kidding.

Duff, I will say this. I have come to a point in my career where I am looking into changing careers. I'm tired of my current one, cause it offers me no fulfillment. Sure, I am paid very well for what I do, but money aint the be all end all. Yes, you need money to survive, but I firmly believe that you also have to be happy with your career and how it is going. I can't tell you how many guys I know who hate their careers, yet they are afraid to give it up cause they don't want to lose the money. So, they stay unhappy, and what they fail to realize is that it not only affects them, but it effects those around them (wives, husbands, children, family, friends). For me, I know that I will give up a good salary to change, but I am preparing for it the best I can.

It seems you have looked at all the positives and negatives of this move. The only advice I will give is this:

1. Are you willing to take the risk?
2. Can you adapt to a new town, and country?
3. Are you mentally capable to handle a move like this?
4. Can you handle things if all doesn't work out as planned?
5. Are you good at adapting to change?

Answer those honestly, and if you say to all, then I would encourage you to make the move.

[Duff]

yeah, i can answer yes to all of them. I handed in my notice in my current branch on Monday, i leave in four weeks. The only downside is you guys might have to survive without me for a while

[Funk]

I would say that a man (expecially Irish) makes the best desisions when he's drunk off his arse. Try it out.

[Ray Williams]

I have moved for Ireland to Great Britain and it was the best choice I every made. No gain in life without a jump.

[Duff]

i leave on Sunday

[Taz]

The only downside is you guys might have to survive without me for a while


noooo, how long do you think you will be gone for?