Man I've lost something huge in my life...

[Lover Nuts]

She sent me an email saying it was over. I'm so confused at the moment, she says she still loves me but she needs some space.

I'll rewind back a bit. For the last few months our relationship pretty much going down hill. Basicly she's a year older than me and she's left school now to go on to college. Basicly I'm still at school still (which I have no problem with) and basicly we never see each other as much. We started phoning up each other and it's not the same when we're with each other. I would rather talk to her in person than on the phone or the internet.

Anyway last Friday there was a fair and we were there with each other and some friends but we wearn't talking other as there was nothing to say. She was acting different as well than her usual self. Well anyway I kinda went off somewhere else and went home without saying anything (it was boring as hell, no one was saying anything and I desperately needed a cigerette and a drink).

Well anyway the next day I got the email I was talking about earlier and I immediately phoned her. She told me she needed some space but she still loved. I was so confused I didn't know what to do. She went to a BBQ that day with one of her friends and she met a couple of boys there. She met someone called Dan and I forgot who the other boy was, and she's got their numbers.

I phoned her up now to talk about us and she basicly said the same thing again. She added that that she really needed a break and that sometimes she loves other people. I told her that I have no problem with that and that sometimes I feel like that, but she told me that she needed a break for a while.

Hopefully tomorrow as we have this thing called enrichment week where we can go to school in non-uniform and that we do fun things, I might be going round her house tomorrow to discuss by taking a bus round there with her sister. I really love and I said that whatever she wants and whatever she needs I'll do for her. But she didn't give me an answer so you could kinda say that she was giving out hints.

I hope anyone here understands my problem and I needed to get this off my chest. I need some advice from someone who has been in this situation. Thanks.

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[Gravedigger]

She sent me an email saying it was over.
LAME. Dude, you don't want a girl who doesn't have the guts to break up with you to your face.


I'm so confused at the moment, she says she still loves me but she needs some space.
In other words she is currently seeing someone or she's BEEN seeing someone for a while now.


Basicly she's a year older than me and she's left school now to go on to college.
The breakup was bound to happen when the guy is the younger one. Don't date older women, it rarely works out. Girls mature faster than we do, so that's why you try to date a girl that's a couple of years younger than you because then you're able to get along better. When I was 17, I dated a 21 year old and it was a disaster at times. We never argued except for once...well twice if you count our break-up. But the breakup was more her fussing and me being in total disbelief that she had any reason at all to be mad at me.

When the girl is older, it's because they want to feel younger by dating a younger guy. I know the situation doesn't really apply for you at this time, but when you're older (like say 20s and 30s) do NOT date older chicks. They're only dating you to make themselves feel younger. Either that or they're really immature. Or maybe it's even because you're a trophy boyfriend if the girl is the older one.


Well anyway I kinda went off somewhere else and went home without saying anything
Bad move.


She told me she needed some space but she still loved.
In other words, she's seeing someone but wants you to still be there in case the new relationship doesn't work out.


She added that that she really needed a break and that sometimes she loves other people. I told her that I have no problem with that and that sometimes I feel like that, but she told me that she needed a break for a while.
I don't get that part of your post. Both of you at times love members of the other sex aside from your gf/bf?? You're only supposed to care for each other. Not other girls for you and other guys for her.

[Lover Nuts]

LAME. Dude, you don't want a girl who doesn't have the guts to break up with you to your face.

Well she lives in a different village from me, it's miles away. Come to think of it though, every question I was asking her she seemed response with a "I don't know" and she would always mumble it.


In other words she is currently seeing someone or she's BEEN seeing someone for a while now.

That's what I think. We met through a friend of mine (my neighbour) and they'e good friends. I have no problem with that, but they act so...so...hippish lol. They would always hold hands together and hug when I'm not there.


The breakup was bound to happen when the guy is the younger one. Don't date older women, it rarely works out. Girls mature faster than we do, so that's why you try to date a girl that's a couple of years younger than you because then you're able to get along better. When I was 17, I dated a 21 year old and it was a disaster at times. We never argued except for once...well twice if you count our break-up. But the breakup was more her fussing and me being in total disbelief that she had any reason at all to be mad at me.

When the girl is older, it's because they want to feel younger by dating a younger guy. I know the situation doesn't really apply for you at this time, but when you're older (like say 20s and 30s) do NOT date older chicks. They're only dating you to make themselves feel younger. Either that or they're really immature. Or maybe it's even because you're a trophy boyfriend if the girl is the older one.


I disagree in some ways. I normally don't date older women but because she liked all the same music I liked, she wasn't a crazy attention seeking psycho and that she is pretty and nice I coulden't resist. Most girls in my year are stuck up, the ones who aren't are already taken.


Bad move.#

:winkok:

Ya got that right. An hour later I felt like a right twat.



In other words, she's seeing someone but wants you to still be there in case the new relationship doesn't work out.

I hate to say this but I have to agree with you there. I hope not know but she was giving out so many hints I had no clue what she was going on about.



I don't get that part of your post. Both of you at times love members of the other sex aside from your gf/bf?? You're only supposed to care for each other. Not other girls for you and other guys for her.

I know, but I was trying to put her mind at ease and not be on her back about this. To her it's nothing wrong and I can't help her feelings for anyone else. Don't get me wrong it does piss me off a lot when flirts with other people and people try to touch her up.

Thanks GD.

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[Raven]

Get a hooker and move on. Time heals all wounds.

[Weaf]

I hate to sound unsympathetic but I really couldn't give a crap. Tough break kid but thems the breaks I'm afraid. I understand you've gotta vent but do I really have to read about it? I know I don't have to but the title of the thread interested me, then I found out it was another girlfriend one.

Haven't you got real life friends to talk to regarding this? I understand that you want to get it off your chest but trust me, you'd be better off talking to a real life person. Pedple here may give advice but at the end of the day they simply don't give a ****.

[Epitaph]

Get a hooker and move on. Time heals all wounds.

Ah yes and what 15 or 16 year old boy is going to be able to afford that? :D

[The Great One]

Ah yes and what 15 or 16 year old boy is going to be able to afford that? :D

You never know, he might have some money saved up. :winkok:

[Lover Nuts]

I hate to sound unsympathetic but I really couldn't give a crap. Tough break kid but thems the breaks I'm afraid. I understand you've gotta vent but do I really have to read about it? I know I don't have to but the title of the thread interested me, then I found out it was another girlfriend one.

Haven't you got real life friends to talk to regarding this? I understand that you want to get it off your chest but trust me, you'd be better off talking to a real life person. Pedple here may give advice but at the end of the day they simply don't give a ****.

I have already talked to one of my friends about this. I just thought I would post here to see what people might say. Sorry to mislead you in the thread title. I'm not going to go on about my girlfriend 24/7 don't worry but I just thought some people might of went through the same thing.

Oh and about the hooker thing, believe it or not there is a brothel around block away from me. No joke. I can imagine our wedding day. "We met in a brothel, I was a little short of cash but it was love at first sight." :chuckles:

Well this week I'll probably talk to her sister to see what's going on.

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[Superman33]

Get a hooker and move on. Time heals all wounds.LMAO!

If she dumps you through a ****ing email then you should kick her ass and feed her to an Italian.

[Lover Nuts]

If she dumps you through a ****ing email then you should kick her ass and feed her to an Italian.

Supres, oh how I love your words of wisdom!

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[Raven]

Marry a hooker? Really? She'd be filthy!! I can see it all now.

Shanny Man: Oh, it's been a heavenly period in my life ever since I met you. I hope you never leave. Let's run away together and never look back.
Hooker: Oh ShanMan, you're right, lets leave this horrid ...
*alarm goes off*
Hooker: Okay, time's up. You got to pay for another hour if you want me to keep this **** up.
Shanny Man: But we're married.
Hooker: Maybe so but business is business! Pay up or my pimp with knock your block off..... sweetie!

[The Great One]

Marry a hooker? Really? She'd be filthy!! I can see it all now.

Shanny Man: Oh, it's been a heavenly period in my life ever since I met you. I hope you never leave. Let's run away together and never look back.
Hooker: Oh ShanMan, you're right, lets leave this horrid ...
*alarm goes off*
Hooker: Okay, time's up. You got to pay for another hour if you want me to keep this **** up.
Shanny Man: But we're married.
Hooker: Maybe so but business is business! Pay up or my pimp with knock your block off..... sweetie!

LMAO, that is some funny ****.

Shanny Man, can't say i am of no help because i have not been in this kinda situation before. I am not the best in relationships, and i haven't managed to get past 2 weeks before it is all off again. :( What i hate about it is, it is always the girl saying they don't feel the same and **** like that, but never will tell you what the real problem is. Your thinking to yourself for a while, "what did i do wrong?" or "where did it go wrong, what can i do to make it better" but usually they turn and say still we can't go on. It so annoys me when they come out with that all the time. :mad: Why can't they just say your not the right person for me, or tell us whats bugging them that they have to end it, instead of feeding us so much ****. What i also hate, is when they ask us to be friends instead. Nothing annoys me more when they resort to lying.

[The_Wolf]

she obviously doesnt care about you shanny or she would have sat down and discussed this with you. well its obvious she is either bored with you or she doesnt love you anymore and that she wants to be with someone else. man dont call her...dont even stay in contact with her. she'll be wanting you back and she'll realise that she has made a mistake..but if that does happen DO NOT take her back. women are friggin weird, one day they want this the next they want something else. your better off without her and man im sure you will find someone else who will treat you better. but if i was you id just go out and get pissed and hang out with friends and try to pick up as many chicks as you can

[CLIT]

I'm Italian!

[Lover Nuts]

she obviously doesnt care about you shanny or she would have sat down and discussed this with you. well its obvious she is either bored with you or she doesnt love you anymore and that she wants to be with someone else. man dont call her...dont even stay in contact with her. she'll be wanting you back and she'll realise that she has made a mistake..but if that does happen DO NOT take her back. women are friggin weird, one day they want this the next they want something else. your better off without her and man im sure you will find someone else who will treat you better. but if i was you id just go out and get pissed and hang out with friends and try to pick up as many chicks as you can

Not a bad idea. Not a bad one at all. Yeah I was thinking about how she would come crawling back to me, if she did I would embarass her by telling her to **** off with hippy friends. She dumped for such a ****ty reason, although I stayed with her when she lost the necklace I bought her for Valentine's Day and when she was drunk she got off with some bloke.

BTW, Well I'm thinking about doing a load of pranks to her. Let me know if you got any good ideas. :winkok:

Oh Clit, after her remains are in the bag, I'll fly to New York city and deliver you the goods. ;)

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[Funk]

Why did chit chat turn into Dr.Phil? God damn it you depressed lunatics, I may have depression but I keep it to my self, you ****wads have to bring other people day down to make them read yoru huge post? Wilse, Shan, and others STFU!

[Lover Nuts]

Why did chit chat turn into Dr.Phil?

Woah woah woah, we don't want to hear about you and Hurri's mental docter. It's not relevent in this conversation. After all, this is 'chit chat' and we are 'chit chatting' and I've seen a load of these threads by all ages.


God damn it you depressed lunatics, I may have depression but I keep it to my self, you ****wads have to bring other people day down to make them read yoru huge post?

Where in my last few posts in this thread did I say I was depressed? Lunatic, don't you think about suicide constantly? I know I don't, after don't you look up to Kurt Cobain. lmao can't you think for yourself? It's a free country if people want to read my huge posts, I'm not forcing anyone to ya big baby. Besides I thought you were e-depressed (lmao, I never knew there was such thing) over the fact that you lost your MOD spot at WI. Even before then you were complaining about how you wearn't mod here and all that 'ass kissing' was a waste of your valueable (if any) time.

BTW, I hope your head doesn't hurt after reading all this. :whatevera


Wilse, Shan, and others STFU!

Oh and how everyone wishes you would take your own advice.

[Funk]

Woah woah woah, we don't want to hear about you and Hurri's mental docter. It's not relevent in this conversation. After all, this is 'chit chat' and we are 'chit chatting' and I've seen a load of these threads by all ages.



Where in my last few posts in this thread did I say I was depressed? Lunatic, don't you think about suicide constantly? I know I don't, after don't you look up to Kurt Cobain. lmao can't you think for yourself? It's a free country if people want to read my huge posts, I'm not forcing anyone to ya big baby. Besides I thought you were e-depressed (lmao, I never knew there was such thing) over the fact that you lost your MOD spot at WI. Even before then you were complaining about how you wearn't mod here and all that 'ass kissing' was a waste of your valueable (if any) time.




BTW, I hope your head doesn't hurt after reading all this. :whatevera



Oh and how everyone wishes you would take your own advice.



Oh dear, Ill reply to this in NHB.

[Lover Nuts]

Oh dear, Ill reply to this in NHB.

...and 23 minutes later than is no reply in NHB. :chuckles:

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[Funk]

I was eating, I don't work to please you (a quote from the almighty Scorch)

[Gravedigger]

I was eating, I don't work to please you (a quote from the almighty Scorch)
lmao@someone quoting Scorch. That shows how desperate you are for a comeback.

[Funk]

? I said the truth I was eating, that is a comeck?

[Gravedigger]

? I said the truth I was eating, that is a comeck?
Go look at your post, that wasn't all you said, but whatever.

[Funk]

But, I didn't want a comeback, and it felt like an oppurtunity to post that.

[iamthatdamgood123]

lmao@someone quoting Scorch. That shows how desperate you are for a comeback.

Is that Saying Scorch is bad at comebacks? Scorch is the king!

[Lover Nuts]

But, I didn't want a comeback, and it felt like an oppurtunity to post that.

lmao. What's this? Funky trying to play dumb?

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[Funk]

Whats that boy your trying to say something? Antlun is retarded? Good boy.

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See that, thats the worlds greatest e-dog and he has the power to sniff stupidity, and it seems like you are in denial. tsk tsk tsk.

[Chazz]

Time for your Uncle Chazz to break it down. Hmmmmmm.......where do I begin? Okay, I have never been one to favor a breakup over the phone, in a note or on the Internet. Honestly, what kind of **** is that? If you're gonna break up with someone, then have the sack to do it to their face. Sadly though, teenagers do these silly breakups. I guess it just is natural because teenagers have done it for years and years, and will continue to do it.

Shanny, the girl isn't worth your time. Hell, she isn't worthy of you porking her because she seems to have some issues. Okay, she says she loves you, and cares for you. Yeah, and right now at this very moment, Carmen Electra is giving me head I am about to explode! Point here is, she doesn't love you at all. The girl has no self respect for herself and has very little for you. Trust me when I say that you are better off without her. Don't stress over her and definitely do not be there when she falls and try to pick up where you two left off. You do that, then she will know that she can leave you again and you will wait for her. Bottom line here, you are better off without her so enjoy your freedom! :winkok:

[Duff]

If she was huge, find someone who isnt so fat, she might make you happier

[Lover Nuts]

Thanks for advice Chazz. I am actually getting over it which is a good thing, this morning I didn't think about her at all. Not once in my mind and also the people I've told at school who say that I'm better off without her also.

Duff, she wasn't obese fat, she looked more like a seal lmao....ah who cares she was one fat ****!

Off topic: For the benifit of others, Funky is on my ignore list.

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[The_Wolf]

well if she looked like a seal why did you bother going out with her, i doesnt sound like you would have had any physical attraction

[Chazz]

Shan, just promise me that you won't take her back when she comes running back to you, because I figure that eventually (maybe next week, or two months from now, or a year from now) she will come back to you. I would be very surprised if she didn't.

I'm sure that she meant something to you. Hell, your title for this thread backs that up. Don't start sinking down to her level by saying that she looked like a seal. That aint gonna help you. Just, put her behind you and move on to the next girl.

:winkok:

[Lover Nuts]

Shan, just promise me that you won't take her back when she comes running back to you, because I figure that eventually (maybe next week, or two months from now, or a year from now) she will come back to you. I would be very surprised if she didn't.

Funny you should say that. I've just gotten home to check my e-mails and I've got one from my ex saying,

"hey, how ya doing? im missing you! jst a couple more weeks then i'll see, is dat ok?
Andrea xxxxxxxx pls email bak!"

, Wolf said it right when he said that women are friggin weird! I'm not gonna e-mail her though and unless she can think about what I want in our relationship then I ain't going back.


I'm sure that she meant something to you. Hell, your title for this thread backs that up. Don't start sinking down to her level by saying that she looked like a seal. That aint gonna help you. Just, put her behind you and move on to the next girl.

:winkok:

Yeah she meant a load to me. It seemed at the time that there was no one else for me and I know that stupid thinking that. I am trying to get it behind me though.

Ok maybe she didn't look like a seal but she just reminded me of one at the time.

Thanks Chazz and to everyone else. :winkok:

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[Chazz]

Trust me when I say that men will never be able to figure women out. Sure, we learn stuff along the way, but never will we figure them out. Hell, the 13 years I have been together with my wife (7 years of these being married) I still haven't figured her out..........but I love the hell out of her and I don't mind it because she hasn't figured me out either. Still, we communicate, love, respect and care for one another, which is why our marriage works.

Once your old gal realizes that she has done something to hurt you, which by not answering her email will more than likely signal it for her, she will probably come to you with another lame excuse, but don't fall for it. She needs to realize that there are more than her feelings involved here, because your feelings are involved as well. That is why I said she was being very selfish. I mean, I am glad she was honest (to a certain degree) about her feelings, but I never felt like she even took the time to consider yours. Maybe she is thinking about it now, but still, the point her was the fact that she did what was best for her, and basically ****ted on you. Breakups aren't pretty, but the least that can be done is to be considerate about the other persons feelings and such.